The Psychology of Resentment: Over-Functioning, Repression, and Repair | Being Well

@RickHansonand I discuss the silent killer of relationships: resentment. We explain how resentment is a combination of perceived grievance (“I was wronged”) and helplessness (“and I can’t fix it”), before talking about how over-functioning and control tendencies can lead to resentment in relationships - one person shoulders more of the load while quietly stewing about it. Topics include the role of rumination in keeping resentment alive, the difference between processing legitimate grievances and toxic rumination, and why resentment can feel protective. Rick shares a step-by-step framework for handling resentment when repair isn’t possible, while I highlight how communication and claiming agency can be powerful antidotes.

Key Topics:
00:00 Intro
04:14 Legitimate grievance vs. unhealthy resentment
09:44 How injustice and helplessness fuel resentment
20:04 Claiming agency
34:41 How to work through resentment
50:11 Situations where there's nothing you can do
1:02:51 Recap

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Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.

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Видео The Psychology of Resentment: Over-Functioning, Repression, and Repair | Being Well канала Forrest Hanson