Strategies for Loving Yourself - Loving Kindness

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In this video, I talk about self-love and the quality of relationship we have with ourselves. The quality of how you treat ourselves determines our ability to cultivate self-love.

Contrary to popular belief, self-love is not the end-all or be-all of healing work or happiness. We need love from both inside and outside of ourselves, meaning we need nourishment through self-regard and treating ourselves kindly, as well as nourishment through positive connections with others. Both experiences help us nurture a stronger sense of self.

Self-love is about self-kindness, gentleness, and compassion. Many of us know all too well the opposite experience of being hard or critical with ourselves. Self-love is a purposeful discipline and constant act of relating to our mind’s experience. It is not a conceptual, feel-good idea that stagnates.

Self-love is an active discipline. The analogy offered here utilizes the symbology of tending to a garden. If we want to love ourselves, sooner or later, we have to put our hands in the dirt, weed out the bad, and plant new seeds of self-kindness. Self-love does not just happen. Just like any relationship, we have to work at it and invest in it.

Strategies for strengthening self-love include asking the question, “Is this an act of self-loving?” This question can often illuminate shame-based thinking and illuminate how we betray ourselves. Self-betrayal is the consequence of making choices that are not in alignment with our best interests or do not reinforce positive self-regard.

Another strategy offered has to do with boundaries. Often times, people feel deprived or that something is being lost when stating a boundary. The phrase “In no is yes” can help remind ourselves to not focus on something being denied but instead to focus on something being gained.

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Strategies for Loving Yourself - Loving Kindness

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