Stop Trying to Get Your Ex Back: Inability to End Relationships
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Many of us want to know how to heal, how to change, how to be more secure, etc. This is why I created the course: The Four Attachment Distress Responses. You're invited to take the quiz and learn about your Response.
Many of our behaviors in relationships are habitual - meaning we act out of autopilot. Our autopilot Response comes from past conditioning of negative experiences. When attachment injuries go unaddressed, we become insecure in our relationships.
The Four Attachment Distress Responses Course describes each specific type of guardedness, which means how we try to protect ourselves from getting hurt again while attempting to get our attachment needs met.
While we cannot change the past, we can change how we respond in the moment and in the future. This course offers you insights and tools as new ways to respond in your relationships. The Four Responses are Poking, Running, Hiding, and Submitting.
Check out the quiz to learn more: See link above.
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In this video I talk about the obsessive plotting and need to force "how to get your ex back?" Many times, this approach is used to manage grief and attachment distress after a break up and is not necessarily in alignment with actually wanting to get back together.
The underlying driver is to find relief from abandonment fears and the painful reality that the relationship is over. When people plot from a "love potion" mentality of how to "lure" an ex-partner back into relationship, they are pretty much guaranteeing this next chapter of relationship won't work out either.
This approach of scheming to "get" someone to love you is not a healthy, mature way to go about building lasting, adult relationships. It is a good way to play games.
As an Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist, I teach and promote a model of Self-Directed Healing, which translates into a model of self-empowerment. We’re strengthening your ability to advocate for yourself. As Selfhealers, we take a holistic approach. This means we advocate for your mental health, your personal growth, and your overall well-being. It means you are in the driver seat of your own care.
On my videos, I like to talk about and explore Healing Attachment Trauma, Relationship Repair, Inner Child Self-Re-Parenting, Codependency, Love Addiction, Grieving Break Ups, Family Programming, Love Yourself, Fantasy Relationships, Trauma Bonding, and CPTSD Breakthroughs.
Heal Your Relationships = #attachmenttrauma
Trust Your Intuition = #selfhealers
Repair w/ Reparenting = #innerchild
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Thanks for watching this video.
If the topic of this video has sparked self-reflection and you are now asking yourself “How do I overcome this?”, “How can I heal?”, the Improve your Relationships community is the right place for you. To learn more about the membership community visit http://www.alanrobarge.com/community The community provides a structured and reoccurring 8-week program of helpful conversations, learning, and support; it offers resources, worksheets, and videos. It promotes a model of self-directed healing and invites self-accountability. You are invited to join us.
Also if you benefit from this video and would like to become a sustaining supporter through a reoccurring or one-time donation, then please check out http://www.alanrobarge.com/donate
To learn more about working together go to http://www.alanrobarge.com/
I offer Attachment-Focused, Trauma Informed Relationship Coaching and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples. I work with adult clients dealing with relationship challenges or failures, lack of purpose, emotional-developmental trauma, and loneliness. I help clients solve problems, feel feelings, and get unstuck. I work with clients via telephone and video-conferencing.
Remember... emotional connections matter!
Alan Robarge, LPC
Attachment-Focused, Trauma-Informed
Psychotherapist and Relationship Educator
Stop Trying to Get Your Ex Back: Inability to End Relationships
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Want to learn more about relationships? Sign up for my Everyday Relating Questionnaire. https://www.alanrobarge.com/everydayrelating
Видео Stop Trying to Get Your Ex Back: Inability to End Relationships канала Alan Robarge / Attachment Trauma Therapist
https://www.alanrobarge.com/adrquiz
Many of us want to know how to heal, how to change, how to be more secure, etc. This is why I created the course: The Four Attachment Distress Responses. You're invited to take the quiz and learn about your Response.
Many of our behaviors in relationships are habitual - meaning we act out of autopilot. Our autopilot Response comes from past conditioning of negative experiences. When attachment injuries go unaddressed, we become insecure in our relationships.
The Four Attachment Distress Responses Course describes each specific type of guardedness, which means how we try to protect ourselves from getting hurt again while attempting to get our attachment needs met.
While we cannot change the past, we can change how we respond in the moment and in the future. This course offers you insights and tools as new ways to respond in your relationships. The Four Responses are Poking, Running, Hiding, and Submitting.
Check out the quiz to learn more: See link above.
__________
Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel to be notified every time I upload a new video. If you liked the video please click the like button, it really supports my channel.
For more information related to this topic and much more follow me on Instagram, I post new content every day. https://www.instagram.com/alan_robarge_psychotherapist/
In this video I talk about the obsessive plotting and need to force "how to get your ex back?" Many times, this approach is used to manage grief and attachment distress after a break up and is not necessarily in alignment with actually wanting to get back together.
The underlying driver is to find relief from abandonment fears and the painful reality that the relationship is over. When people plot from a "love potion" mentality of how to "lure" an ex-partner back into relationship, they are pretty much guaranteeing this next chapter of relationship won't work out either.
This approach of scheming to "get" someone to love you is not a healthy, mature way to go about building lasting, adult relationships. It is a good way to play games.
As an Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist, I teach and promote a model of Self-Directed Healing, which translates into a model of self-empowerment. We’re strengthening your ability to advocate for yourself. As Selfhealers, we take a holistic approach. This means we advocate for your mental health, your personal growth, and your overall well-being. It means you are in the driver seat of your own care.
On my videos, I like to talk about and explore Healing Attachment Trauma, Relationship Repair, Inner Child Self-Re-Parenting, Codependency, Love Addiction, Grieving Break Ups, Family Programming, Love Yourself, Fantasy Relationships, Trauma Bonding, and CPTSD Breakthroughs.
Heal Your Relationships = #attachmenttrauma
Trust Your Intuition = #selfhealers
Repair w/ Reparenting = #innerchild
__________
Thanks for watching this video.
If the topic of this video has sparked self-reflection and you are now asking yourself “How do I overcome this?”, “How can I heal?”, the Improve your Relationships community is the right place for you. To learn more about the membership community visit http://www.alanrobarge.com/community The community provides a structured and reoccurring 8-week program of helpful conversations, learning, and support; it offers resources, worksheets, and videos. It promotes a model of self-directed healing and invites self-accountability. You are invited to join us.
Also if you benefit from this video and would like to become a sustaining supporter through a reoccurring or one-time donation, then please check out http://www.alanrobarge.com/donate
To learn more about working together go to http://www.alanrobarge.com/
I offer Attachment-Focused, Trauma Informed Relationship Coaching and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples. I work with adult clients dealing with relationship challenges or failures, lack of purpose, emotional-developmental trauma, and loneliness. I help clients solve problems, feel feelings, and get unstuck. I work with clients via telephone and video-conferencing.
Remember... emotional connections matter!
Alan Robarge, LPC
Attachment-Focused, Trauma-Informed
Psychotherapist and Relationship Educator
Stop Trying to Get Your Ex Back: Inability to End Relationships
_________
Want to learn more about relationships? Sign up for my Everyday Relating Questionnaire. https://www.alanrobarge.com/everydayrelating
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