Crushing Grief, Heart Cracking Open, Unraveling, and Rebirth after Relationship Ends

New Update: Announcing the Four Attachment Distress Responses Quiz and Course

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Many of us want to know how to heal, how to change, how to be more secure, etc. This is why I created the course: The Four Attachment Distress Responses. You're invited to take the quiz and learn about your Response.

Many of our behaviors in relationships are habitual - meaning we act out of autopilot. Our autopilot Response comes from past conditioning of negative experiences. When attachment injuries go unaddressed, we become insecure in our relationships.

The Four Attachment Distress Responses Course describes each specific type of guardedness, which means how we try to protect ourselves from getting hurt again while attempting to get our attachment needs met.

While we cannot change the past, we can change how we respond in the moment and in the future. This course offers you insights and tools as new ways to respond in your relationships. The Four Responses are Poking, Running, Hiding, and Submitting.

Check out the quiz to learn more: See link above.

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In this video I talk about the profound intensity and transformative process when inconsolable grief crushes our sense-of-self, leaving us to question reality and truth as we have known it. This can happen when an important relationship ends.

I describe key components of this breaking down process and instructs that ultimately a bigger, purposeful process is taking shape. Your consciousness is expanding. Through your pain and suffering, you are expanding into greater maturity.

This is the death-rebirth process as initiation that has been going on since the beginning of time. If you are watching this video, then chances are you are living it - meaning, you are living through your own psychic, mythic death.

You are dying into who you are becoming. The dying process can be confused with suicidal thoughts and feelings. Conscious participation with a psychic death of self is an engagement with metaphorical suicide. It's important not to be confused, thinking that this process is literal.

The invitation within this transformation is to open your heart and align with compassion, which means compassion for yourself and also for the sadness of the suffering in the world. Often times, this process is referred to as a spiritual conversion. This is a profound, transpersonal waking up.

Also on this video, I share three poems that help provide context and understanding. Poetry is healing. The first poem is The Holy Longing by Goethe, the second poem is Mourning Sickness by Keith Smith, and the third is The Journey by Mary Oliver.

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If the topic of this video has sparked self-reflection and you are now asking yourself “How do I overcome this?”, “How can I heal?”, the Improve your Relationships community is the right place for you. To learn more about the membership community visit http://www.alanrobarge.com/community The community provides a structured and reoccurring 8-week program of helpful conversations, learning, and support; it offers resources, worksheets, and videos. It promotes a model of self-directed healing and invites self-accountability. You are invited to join us.

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I offer Attachment-Focused, Trauma Informed Relationship Coaching and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples. I work with adult clients dealing with relationship challenges or failures, lack of purpose, emotional-developmental trauma, and loneliness. I help clients solve problems, feel feelings, and get unstuck. I work with clients via telephone and video-conferencing.

Remember... emotional connections matter!

Alan Robarge, LPC
Attachment Focused, Trauma Informed
Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach

Crushing Grief, Heart Cracking Open, Unraveling, and Rebirth after Relationship Ends

Видео Crushing Grief, Heart Cracking Open, Unraveling, and Rebirth after Relationship Ends канала Alan Robarge / Attachment Trauma Therapist