Attachment and Differentiation - Healthy Relationships
New Update: Announcing the Four Attachment Distress Responses Quiz and Course
https://www.alanrobarge.com/adrquiz
Many of us want to know how to heal, how to change, how to be more secure, etc. This is why I created the course: The Four Attachment Distress Responses. You're invited to take the quiz and learn about your Response.
Many of our behaviors in relationships are habitual - meaning we act out of autopilot. Our autopilot Response comes from past conditioning of negative experiences. When attachment injuries go unaddressed, we become insecure in our relationships.
The Four Attachment Distress Responses Course describes each specific type of guardedness, which means how we try to protect ourselves from getting hurt again while attempting to get our attachment needs met.
While we cannot change the past, we can change how we respond in the moment and in the future. This course offers you insights and tools as new ways to respond in your relationships. The Four Responses are Poking, Running, Hiding, and Submitting.
Check out the quiz to learn more: See link above.
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For more information related to this topic and much more follow me on Instagram, I post new content every day. https://www.instagram.com/alan_robarge_psychotherapist/
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Attachment and Differentiation - Healthy Relationships
In this video I talk about Attachment Theory and Attachment Styles. Specifically, I name the styles of Secure, Preoccupied-Anxious, Avoidant, Ambivalent, and Disorganized. Also I mention the two different types of Avoidant presentations, namely Fearful Avoidant and Dismissive Avoidant.
Also I introduce the idea of differentiation which is our ability to hold the tension between our need and drive for closeness and autonomous independence. He borrows from the image of Schopenhauer’s Porcupines to explain the on-going, back-and-forth nature of closeness and separation.
There is also mention of some of the unique dynamics of relating to someone who more of an Avoidant Attachment Style. It can be challenging to explain to someone who is more on the Avoidant side that there is a need for deeper, more emotionally attuned relating.
From the perspective of being Avoidant, such deeper emotional connecting is not attractive or valued. Many times a person who is Avoidant will be unaware that their partner or family member feels that something is missing. The Avoidantly attached person will assume that everyone’s needs are getting met because they cannot fathom the need for more.
Lastly, I also talks about employing an honest self-assessment if you are even in the right relationship with the right person. Many people are dishonest with themselves that they are just not the right match for their partner. Often times, people get stuck believing that the partner will change.
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Thanks for watching this video.
If the topic of this video has sparked self-reflection and you are now asking yourself “How do I overcome this?”, “How can I heal?”, the Improve your Relationships community is the right place for you. To learn more about the membership community visit http://www.alanrobarge.com/community The community provides a structured and reoccurring 8-week program of helpful conversations, learning, and support; it offers resources, worksheets, and videos. It promotes a model of self-directed healing and invites self-accountability. You are invited to join us.
Also if you benefit from this video and would like to become a sustaining supporter through a reoccurring or one-time donation, then please check out http://www.alanrobarge.com/donate
To learn more about working together go to http://www.alanrobarge.com/
I offer Attachment-Focused, Trauma Informed Relationship Coaching and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples. I work with adult clients dealing with relationship challenges or failures, lack of purpose, emotional-developmental trauma, and loneliness. I help clients solve problems, feel feelings, and get unstuck. I work with clients via telephone and video-conferencing.
Remember... emotional connections matter!
Alan Robarge, LPC
Attachment Focused, Trauma Informed
Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach
Attachment and Differentiation - Healthy Relationships
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Want to learn more about relationships? Sign up for my Everyday Relating Questionnaire. https://www.alanrobarge.com/everydayrelating
Видео Attachment and Differentiation - Healthy Relationships канала Alan Robarge / Attachment Trauma Therapist
https://www.alanrobarge.com/adrquiz
Many of us want to know how to heal, how to change, how to be more secure, etc. This is why I created the course: The Four Attachment Distress Responses. You're invited to take the quiz and learn about your Response.
Many of our behaviors in relationships are habitual - meaning we act out of autopilot. Our autopilot Response comes from past conditioning of negative experiences. When attachment injuries go unaddressed, we become insecure in our relationships.
The Four Attachment Distress Responses Course describes each specific type of guardedness, which means how we try to protect ourselves from getting hurt again while attempting to get our attachment needs met.
While we cannot change the past, we can change how we respond in the moment and in the future. This course offers you insights and tools as new ways to respond in your relationships. The Four Responses are Poking, Running, Hiding, and Submitting.
Check out the quiz to learn more: See link above.
__________
Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel to be notified every time I upload a new video. If you liked the video please click the like button, it really supports my channel.
For more information related to this topic and much more follow me on Instagram, I post new content every day. https://www.instagram.com/alan_robarge_psychotherapist/
_________
Attachment and Differentiation - Healthy Relationships
In this video I talk about Attachment Theory and Attachment Styles. Specifically, I name the styles of Secure, Preoccupied-Anxious, Avoidant, Ambivalent, and Disorganized. Also I mention the two different types of Avoidant presentations, namely Fearful Avoidant and Dismissive Avoidant.
Also I introduce the idea of differentiation which is our ability to hold the tension between our need and drive for closeness and autonomous independence. He borrows from the image of Schopenhauer’s Porcupines to explain the on-going, back-and-forth nature of closeness and separation.
There is also mention of some of the unique dynamics of relating to someone who more of an Avoidant Attachment Style. It can be challenging to explain to someone who is more on the Avoidant side that there is a need for deeper, more emotionally attuned relating.
From the perspective of being Avoidant, such deeper emotional connecting is not attractive or valued. Many times a person who is Avoidant will be unaware that their partner or family member feels that something is missing. The Avoidantly attached person will assume that everyone’s needs are getting met because they cannot fathom the need for more.
Lastly, I also talks about employing an honest self-assessment if you are even in the right relationship with the right person. Many people are dishonest with themselves that they are just not the right match for their partner. Often times, people get stuck believing that the partner will change.
_________
Thanks for watching this video.
If the topic of this video has sparked self-reflection and you are now asking yourself “How do I overcome this?”, “How can I heal?”, the Improve your Relationships community is the right place for you. To learn more about the membership community visit http://www.alanrobarge.com/community The community provides a structured and reoccurring 8-week program of helpful conversations, learning, and support; it offers resources, worksheets, and videos. It promotes a model of self-directed healing and invites self-accountability. You are invited to join us.
Also if you benefit from this video and would like to become a sustaining supporter through a reoccurring or one-time donation, then please check out http://www.alanrobarge.com/donate
To learn more about working together go to http://www.alanrobarge.com/
I offer Attachment-Focused, Trauma Informed Relationship Coaching and Psychotherapy for Individuals and Couples. I work with adult clients dealing with relationship challenges or failures, lack of purpose, emotional-developmental trauma, and loneliness. I help clients solve problems, feel feelings, and get unstuck. I work with clients via telephone and video-conferencing.
Remember... emotional connections matter!
Alan Robarge, LPC
Attachment Focused, Trauma Informed
Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach
Attachment and Differentiation - Healthy Relationships
_________
Want to learn more about relationships? Sign up for my Everyday Relating Questionnaire. https://www.alanrobarge.com/everydayrelating
Видео Attachment and Differentiation - Healthy Relationships канала Alan Robarge / Attachment Trauma Therapist
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