How To Talk To Your Crush

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You’ve met a guy you like but whenever you think about talking to him your heart feels like it’s going to explode out of your chest. Even the idea of being alone with him and your tongue is suddenly tied in a knot. Or maybe you’ve never even talked to him one on one and you can’t figure out how to start a conversation. You know you two would get along great if you could just break through this barrier. So how do you do it? How do you talk to your crush?

Hi, I’m Lucy Goldman with LoveLearnings TV. I’m a commitment expert and dating coach with clients around the world. In this video I’m going to tell you what’s making you nervous about talking to your crush, how to overcome that and get the conversation going.

So let’s start talking about your crush. The difficulty you’re having isn’t new. Women have been finding it difficult to talk to their crushes for all of human history. But knowledge is power. I’m going to go over what makes talking to a crush so hard in order to demystify the process and make it a little easier.

You see, whether or not you’re aware of it, the reason you can’t talk to your crush is because you’re afraid. You’re worried about rejection. Putting yourself out there like this is scary because he might not feel the same way and you might just end up embarrassed. My method removes this danger of rejection, so don’t worry. More on this later.

There are actually other sources of fear in this situation. Our society has many negative stereotypes about women who make the first move. You don’t want to come across as too forward or desperate by being the pursuer in the relationship. This can turn men off because it upsets traditional gender roles. If you follow my advice you won’t have to worry about this either. While you may be making the first move, you’ll be doing it in a non-aggressive way that will allow him to maintain his masculinity.

Then there’s the greatest fear of them all, the fear of the unknown. Being afraid of the unknown and the unknowable is not only universal, it’s been crucial for survival for all living things since the beginning of time. If you were a rabbit, that ever present fear would keep you alert, allow you to evade predators, and keep you alive. These days we don’t often have to worry about being eaten by wolves or crushed by a falling rock but that fear is still there. What it comes down to is that you’re afraid to talk to your crush because some primal part of your brain is trying to avoid the unknown.

This is all just to say, don’t feel bad about not knowing how to talk to your crush. It takes a great deal of courage and I’m proud of you for taking the first step by watching this video. Now let’s talk about how you can overcome these anxieties and start talking to your crush.

Here’s something you’re probably not going to want to hear: Talking to your crush is easy. Every day, millions of women talk to their crush for the first time and very few of them wither away and die. It’s the fear and apprehension you’re feeling that is making it difficult. The best way to stop thinking about what could go wrong is to follow these simple steps.

Start with a question.

A question is the best way to start a conversation. Something casual is key. Don’t make him feel like he’s at a job interview or on an awkward first date. Use the context in which you know him. For example, if he’s a coworker, ask him if he’s going to the Christmas party. If he’s a classmate, ask him what he thinks of your professor. Just make sure it’s an open ended question that will give you two something to discuss. Asking about an upcoming event is a great option as it is a natural question, it’s tied to something you two have in common, and it gives him an opening to ask you out if he’s so inclined.
Let him do the talking

One excuse to avoid talking to your crush is that you’re worried about running out of things to say. The more you focus on trying to think of something to say, the harder it’s going to be. Avoid this problem by simply letting him take the lead. This takes the pressure off and all you have to do is react to what he’s saying. Plus men are used to taking the lead when it comes to romance so this will make him more receptive to flirting.

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