Is It Possible To Be Happy Alone?

With the pandemic forcing a lot of people to stay home more, so many people are also finding themselves alone a lot more. So you may be asking is it possible to be happy completely alone? I isolated myself at the beginning of quarantine and I found that I became much more unhappy, but was that just me? In this video I talk about if you can be happy alone, as well as the benefits and detriments to spending all your time alone.

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In the book Happiness, two psychologists, Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener, point out that “like food and air, we seem to need social relationships to thrive.”
In a study titled “Very Happy People” psychologists had a goal of finding out what makes the top 10% happiest people happy. You might be thinking it’s where they live, or what they do for a living, but no. wrongo. It was overwhelmingly their social support.

And this is because having people around us to support us multiplies our emotional, intellectual, and physical resources. It allows us to bounce back from setbacks faster, accomplish more, and feel more purposeful.

As if these benefits were not enough, there is another reason having people around improves your chances of success in life.You may be thinking, yeah because the world runs off connections, which is true to some extent yes, but I am more so referring to the consistent drive it gives you. When over a thousand highly successful professional men and women approaching retirement were interviewed and asked what had motivated them the most throughout their careers, the answer they gave by far the most was work friendships. Placed well above their aim for financial gain and individual status.
Psychology shows that the need for social bond is actually wired into our brains.
When we make a social connection, oxytocin is released into our bloodstream, immediately reducing anxiety and boosting focus.
It even promotes healthier living by strengthening cardiovascular, neuroendocrine and immune systems. Without social contact, our bodies have been shown to do wildly unhealthy things, like add 30 points to our blood pressure readings. Social support is said to have as much effect on life expectancy as high blood pressure, and obesity.

Best selling author and psychologist, Shawn Anchor likes to put it like this- the people around you are your offensive line. If you don’t understand football, well the offensive line is the line in front of the quarterback that protects him from the linemen on the other team. Without the offensive line, the quarterback would be on his own to defend himself from the 350 pound linemen running at him trying to take him out. In life, the opposing team has some pretty strong linemen. Things like stress, difficulty, hardship and loads of others, but we can use the ones arounds us to defend and support us. Oftentimes however, we don’t.

Think about stressful times in your life. You may immediately think of financial hardships or if you’re a little younger, you may think of big midterms and finals. In these times do we usually look to others, or turn to ourselves to try to better the situation.

Stereotypically we turn to ourselves.

When the stock market crashed in 2008, you can watch as traders leave the floor alone, with their heads down. On successful trading days they would join their team, and celebrate. Why the change? Why not at least talk it out with your team? It’s funny, we are social when we don’t need support as much, and isolate ourselves when we need people the most.
Or think about a huge final that you have to prepare for. Most people hunker down, stop hanging out with people, and spend as much time studying as possible.
A ‘hunker down’ studier increases stress levels, lessens sleep quality, and decreases the performance of the brain. A social studier, one that takes some time to study with people, or take a break to have lunch with friends, decreases stress levels by having others influence their mood, but also uses the ones around them to better learn.
So don’t make the same mistake I did. Think twice about handling your adversity all alone. Even in times of a pandemic, find ways to reach out to people and stay connected.
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