7 Mistakes That Will Push Away Your Ex Forever

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If you’re trying to get back with your ex, there’s plenty of tips and techniques I can share with you to help you make that happen. But arguably the most important thing I can teach you is actually what not to do. That’s because most people make one or several of the mistakes I’m about to cover in this video, unknowingly destroying their chances of ever getting back together. If you don’t want that to happen to you, then keep watching!

I am, of course, Breakup Brad AKA Brad Browning AKA the #1 most trusted breakup coach on the planet. Through my comprehensive Ex Factor program and my 1-on-1 coaching services, I’ve helped over 130,000 people get through a breakup and get a second chance with their ex.

Let’s get started talking about the big, common mistakes that you need to avoid making in order to win back your ex.

Mistake #1 -- Trying to use words rather than actions.

Don’t be an idiot and try to talk your way back into your ex’s arms. I’ve said this before, but it simple never works.

The reality, though, is that after a breakup, most people try to reach out to their ex and talk to them about their relationship and the breakup. Maybe they’re looking for closure, maybe they’re trying to convince their ex to give them another chance. Either way, doing that is actually an absolute, 100% guaranteed way to make things worse. You don’t want to be talking to your ex at all in the first few weeks after breaking up, even though it probably seems like an obvious thing to do at first.

Even though this is counter-intuitive, avoiding any contact with your ex is a must for at least 30 days. Trust me on this…. even if you think you’ve got something to say that will change his or her mind, don’t talk to your ex.

For the first while after your breakup, you want to “shock” your ex into experiencing how difficult it is deal with your sudden disappearance. Your ex was used to having you around all the time, and when you suddenly vanish, the pain and feelings of missing you will be much stronger if you completely disappear than if you continue to talk to your ex regularly.

Mistake #2 -- Getting into serious discussions with your ex.

OK, so you already know that you should employ the 30 day No Contact technique after breaking up since I just explained that. But what about when the No Contact period is over? Is it OK at that point to talk things over with your ex?

No. Absolutely not. This is another very common mistake people make…. Talking with your ex about the relationship or the breakup is generally a very bad idea.

Pretty much any kind of “serious” discussion -- where you bring up old drama, go over old arguments, or discuss the things that led to your breakup -- is a recipe for disaster. This type of stuff is almost certainly a contributing factor that led the collapse of your relationship. How is re-hashing old disputes or re-visiting problems from the past relationship going to make your ex want to take you back? All that does is remind your ex why they wanted out.

What you need is for your ex to let go of those bad memories and problems that led to the breakup. As a matter of fact, research has shown that negative memories tend to fade over time much more quickly than positive memories. This is a natural human coping mechanism.

This means that your period of “no contact” after the breakup can help your ex forget about the negatives and latch on to the more nostalgic and positive stuff. Every time you talk with your ex about the relationship, or engage into any kind of bickering, drama, or mind games… you’re only digging yourself a deeper hole and making yourself look less attractive in the eyes of your ex.

Mistake #3 -- Begging, pleading, or apologizing over and over again.

I think this should be fairly obvious from the first two mistakes I just described, but any type of begging, pleading, or repeatedly apologizing to your ex after the breakup is a bad idea. Remember, you’re supposed to have no contact at first, and especially nothing serious or dramatic. Begging and pleading make you look desperate and needy, which obviously isn’t going to make you more attractive in the eyes of your ex.

Mistake #4 -- Publicly displaying your emotions.

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