501: Terry Real on Breaking Through Shame, Anger, and Trauma & Healing Relationships

Today, I’m here with Terry Real, a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher who’s been in practice for 30 years. He’s well known for his work on men and male psychology, as well as his work with relationships and couples. His books include I Don’t Want To Talk About It about male depression and How Can I Get Through to You? about relationships. His most recent book is The New Rules of Marriage. In this episode, we go into his own story of trauma and how it led him to become a therapist. We also talk about how depression expresses itself differently in men and women, his work with couples to improve intimacy, his relational life therapy program, healing our childhood wounds, and how we can raise relationally aware children who don’t repeat these patterns. Let’s jump in with Terry! Episode Highlights With Terry Real His own story with trauma and why he became a therapist What sparked his book I Don’t Want to Talk About It Why depression can affect men in different and harder ways and how to break this cycle The ways culture can create tension in our relationships What the majority of our issues are rooted in How he works with couples to help improve intimacy The central message of his work with couples What his relational life therapy program is and how it works Why the adaptations to the wounds are more important than the wounds themselves What the adaptive child part of us is and how this contributes to adult relationship struggles The importance of working through your shame, anger, and depression to help past and future generations How to raise relational children who can help break the cycle Why under patriarchy, you can be connected or you can be powerful, but you can’t be both How he teaches soft power to help shift this dynamic How to foster compassionate curiosity about your partner’s objective experience The way kids “borrow” our prefrontal cortex and how to help them Why it’s important to not take away kids emotions and how to work with them instead How to stand up for yourself with love in your relationships What witness abuse is and how it can harm our children Resources We Mention Terry’s website Terry’s courses and CDs I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women by Terrence Real Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real Relational Parenting Course Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind: Informal Talks on Zen Meditation and Practice by Shunryu Suzuki More From Wellness Mama 483: Mark Wolynn on Why It Didn’t Start With You, Inherited Trauma & How We Heal 454: Dr. Jennifer Tippett on Trauma Therapy, Never Wasting Triggers, and Psychedelic Research 268: Tildet Varon on Positive Parenting & Effective Family Communication 470: Amy Emerson of MAPS on the Future of Psychedelic Assisted Therapy & Research 473: Aleks Rybchinskiy on Pain, Trauma, and Inner Work for Health and Healing 440: Working Through Trauma and Understanding the Mind/Body Connection With Ari Langdon 339: Healing Trauma, Releasing Shame, Finding Joy & Becoming a Super Attractor With Gabrielle Bernstein 309: How I Overcame Trauma (and Lost 50 Pounds) 288: Breakthrough Solutions for Anxiety, Depression and PTSD With Apollo Founder Dr. David Rabin 349: How to Be Your Best in High Stress Situations With Former Army Ranger and CIA Agent Jeff Banman 303: Gabby Reece on Parenting, Creating Strong Relationships, and XPT 287: How to Create and Rekindle Passion & Libido in Relationships With Susan Bratton Why to Try Forest Bathing to Decrease Anxiety, Depression, and Inflammation Vitamin B12 Deficiency and Depression Did you enjoy this episode? Please drop a comment below or leave a

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