nobody has a list for this stuff and yet it all has to get done, the size 4s, the picture day, the

nobody has a list for this stuff and yet it all has to get done, the size 4s, the picture day, the sitter, the side dish, the chicken, all of it living rent free in exactly one person’s head in this house...

that is the mental load, not that i’m more organized or more naturally detail oriented, it’s that i’m the only one who knows what happens if any of those things don’t happen, the kid shows up to picture day in the wrong outfit, the sitter doesn’t get paid on time, tomorrow’s dinner doesn’t exist bc nobody touched the chicken tonight, the consequences of forgetting are mine so the remembering is mine too!!

USC researchers found moms carry 73% of cognitive household labor and i think what they actually measured is the number of people in a house who know the chicken has to come out tonight, and it is usually one...

the mental load is not about doing more, it is about being the only person who holds the full picture of what the week requires before the week even starts?!

the fix that actually helped: sunday i spend 12 minutes moving every open loop out of my head and into a shared note both of us can see, not because it removes the mental load but because it stops me from being the only person who could possibly know about the chicken...

if your brain looked exactly like this reel today, send it to someone who needs to see it

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