let me tell you what the communication layer for a four-person household actually looks like on a

let me tell you what the communication layer for a four-person household actually looks like on a tuesday!!

the pediatrician callback came in at 2:17pm while i was on a teams call i couldn’t leave, the dentist confirmation came to an email inbox that currently has 47 unread messages from schools, daycares, insurance companies, and teachers who all communicate on different platforms with different response windows, the school reminder is sitting in an app i downloaded in september and opened twice, and i am also managing my own work inbox, my own calendar, three other people’s calendars, and a mental list of things that haven’t been written down anywhere because there isn’t time to write them down??

researchers who study cognitive household labor call this the “anticipation and delegation” layer, and in a usc study of 322 families it was the most gendered dimension of household work, more gendered than the physical tasks, meaning even when the doing gets shared the knowing, tracking, and communicating stays with her…

the average household generates communication across 6 to 8 platforms simultaneously, school apps, medical portals, daycare emails, family texts, calendar invites, insurance calls, and exactly one person in most households is monitoring all of them while also holding a full time job!!

i am not dropping balls, i am one person doing the job of an entire communications department for free 💛

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