Why Self-Esteem Backfires

Self-Esteem sounds like a good idea, but I've seen it backfire so many times. Self- Esteem is important, but so many people struggle to have a healthy sense of their own identity. The question “Am I good enough?” seems to impact everyone, myself included.
I’m going to be honest, I don’t really care for the “Self-Esteem” movement…the basic idea is to spend time every day saying nice things to yourself or to make lists of all of your good attributes. Now I do think that how we treat ourselves really matters, and we should be honest about both our strengths and weaknesses, but I’ve seen “Self-esteem” get badly turned into fake accomplishments and medals, or prideful comparisons, or simply practices that don’t work- like for example, it just never worked for me to look in the mirror and say nice things to myself- it just didn’t answer the question I was asking- which was how can I know if I’m living well?

So in this video, I’m going to talk about 4 sources of self-esteem that will always let you down, and one approach to thinking about yourself that has actually helped me become more at peace

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