How To Make Your Wife Happy Again | Paul Friedman

Forget nonsense like "buy her flowers" or other trivialities. Paul Friedman shares what your wife really wants and what will really make her happy.

There's a simple answer to this and then I want to get into a little bit of philosophy so you have a deeper understanding and not just left with a shallow. Here's what you do and the simple is treat her the way you did when you were dating her, when you were courting her. Now almost every man will say, "Hey man, that's different. I was trying to win her." That's exactly right. You are trying to win her and it made her happy.

What are some of the things that you did when you were courting her and when you are dating her?

Let's compare that to things that you're not doing now so let's start with complimenting her. I don't know any man who didn't compliment their girlfriends when they were trying to get them to marry them. Complimenting is a big part of courting; it's what you do.

When was the last time you complimented your wife?

Let's talk about smiling at them. Smiling when they say something interesting, smiling when they say something funny, smiling when they're telling you a story that you're totally not interested in but you smile sincerely as you were interested in it. Now you don't "pretend" so now you have to change it. Now you have to be interested and smile again. So now you've got two things: complement, smile, listening. You are a great listener back when you were courting your wife, when you are dating your wife even if you're only responses were "Uh-huh, uh-huh, yeah, I hear you" and you were thinking about something else. You were listening, you were paying attention so men and women are very different.

Men don't need anybody to listen to them. Men can talk to the dog, men can talk to a plant, men can talk to the TV. Women need to be heard -- it's just how we're built. Well, why wouldn't you provide that if you love your wife and I assume you do or you wouldn't want to make or happy again. Start listening. In fact that'll benefit you quite a bit if you listen because you'll start to see something that you don't have this connection to their heart oftentimes it's disguised as emotions but a lot of what a woman is to us men is this, well of love, heart, soul. Men because of how nature designed, we don't have ready access to our hearts so listening is good so you need to listen more.

Now, what else can you do? Are you starting to work with me on this? How about getting in touch with them during the day?

Letting them know that you love them. When was the last time you said to your wife something like I would protect you against a grizzly bear and 17 wolves and I'd win because I love you so much? When was the last time you said anything like that to your wife? When was the last time you let her know that you are there to protect her?

Now some of you are thinking, "Oh yeah, I can do some of that and then she'll be better." No, you have to do this all the time. Why, because this is how men express their love to their wives so that their wives recognize on an ongoing basis that their husbands love them just like you want sex all the time. You don't want it once and go, "Okay, that's proof she loves me, don't need that anymore." You have to be there for your wife. You have to anticipate her needs. You don't have to bring her gifts. I don't represent a candy company, I'm not going to tell you to bring her candy. I don't represent a flower company, I'm not going to tell you to bring her flowers. That stuff is doesn't matter compared to these other things. There are also things that you're probably doing now that you didn't use to do that are undermining her happiness with you.

Do you complain to her? Do you b*tching her? Do you send her on errands? What are you doing that is not expressing love?

Those things have to stop so if you want to make your wife happy again those are just a few things. Look either one of my books really lays out very well what a marriage is supposed to look like. Read one of those. Now if you have gone too far and your wife is saying "I need a divorce" and now you're looking up how do I make my wife happy again, men are you behind the curve and if that's the case I'm going to tell you flat out. You need the course for men. You need to really step up to the plate because if she's talking about divorce or you're sensing that your marriage is in serious trouble so hopefully that's not the case. Unfortunately, I have to say most men who come to us that is the case.

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