Reasons Why Divorce Is Bad | Paul Friedman

Paul Friedman addresses the reasons why divorce is bad but then offers even more compelling reasons to turn your marriage around for positive reasons. There is hope!

I began The Marriage Foundation for children. No surprise, the number one reason why divorce is bad is because of how it impacts your children. Virtually, all of us would do anything for our kids. We would throw ourselves in front of a moving train we don't care we would give up our arm, our leg; it doesn't matter. Our children become our lives and we're able to express our unconditional love to our children when we should be expressing our unconditional love to our spouse and setting an example to our children of how to express unconditional love.

You got married to be happy and by now, if you're looking at this video you're wondering what the heck happened. You actually don't even care. You're thinking seriously about getting a divorce and you're wondering, "Well, why not." And unfortunately, society is supporting a lot of people in saying, divorce is okay but there are really strong reasons why it's not okay and let's begin with the children. We have enough statistics so that it is now out of the realm of philosophy. We know for a fact how much damage divorce does to a child.

Are there people who try to hide it to minimize it, cover it up?

Absolutely, but only because they don't know how to save a marriage. Fortunately, I know how to save a marriage so I could stand on the mountaintop and I can say, "Hey look, stay married." But I'm going to go a step further, I'm gonna say, "Even if your marriage was a horror show for the rest of the days while your children are living with you, stay married for their sake." You throw yourself in front of a bus. You can handle living with someone who is no fun to be with or, and here's the alternative, you could decide to heal your marriage, and you can do that all by yourself.

Let's get back to the reasons, the number one reason is statistically we know that your child, your children will not do as well as if you remain married. This is a fact, this isn't a, "Well, tell me about that." This is a fact. They will not do as well. They will get into trouble sooner with drugs and alcohol, they will be emotionally stressed, they won't understand love, they'll certainly not understand unconditional love because where do they learn everything but from you. They will probably get a divorce too if you get a divorce, and there goes the whole idea of continuing family. Your kids will not do well.

Take a look in my article on this because it will tell you straight up why. You'll go through the statistics so you know. Now there's another reason and you could say this is more of a selfish reason for you but so what, you're talking about your own life. Your marriage was the biggest decision of your life. Buying a home is not the biggest decision and it's not the biggest investment. The biggest investment is in your marriage, is in your spouse. It doesn't take a psychologist to know how that's going to affect you psychologically to fail at the biggest decision of your life. It's going to mess with you. There is no recovery from that. Yes, you can get past it but that's different than recovery. You don't need to get a divorce.

There are so many other things that you can do to save your marriage. Now granted society as a whole is kind of flustered about what to do and I'm going to now go into this. I'm not flustered, I was a divorce mediator. Where do you think I got all of my leads? From psychologists who failed, marriage therapists who failed. And then one day, it struck me that this is crazy.

How can it be that the most common thing that everyone does getting married has a failure rate that is so high?

Yes, we have a divorce rate that's over 50% but there's a failure rate that is much higher than that so I broke it down and I dissected marriage.

Why do we get married? Why do we get to think about that? Why did you get married?

You got married to be happier and now you're on the verge of divorce when you got married to be happier so then you got to ask yourself, what did you do during your marriage to preserve those things that make you happy in marriage, and what is the number-one thing that makes you happy in marriage is experiencing unconditional love and no one teaches us this.

If you go to a psychologist, they certainly don't talk about love, only in an abstract way but it's a real thing -- it's a tangible thing. You can do what it takes to experience unconditional love in a mechanical fashion. I know it's crazy but there's a science around love. There is, I've done it. I've helped thousands of people do it and you can experience it too.

Watch the video for more.

#marriageanddivorce #marriagewithoutdivorce #marriageproblems #marriagecounseling
#unconditionallove

Видео Reasons Why Divorce Is Bad | Paul Friedman канала The Marriage Foundation