THIS is Gaslighting!

Gaslighting is often used by sociopaths or narcissists for emotional manipulation. They will use them in different ways and for different reasons, but these are the people who manipulate the most. Gaslighting is a term that comes from an old movie where a guy manipulates a woman so that he can get her jewels. What gaslighting really is, is emotional abuse. When someone is being gaslighted, they will be told that their memory of things, or what they felt in a certain situation is wrong. The whole goal of this type of abuse is to get a person to question their perception, memory, or even their sanity. Signs that you are being gaslit:
1. You always second guess yourself
2. You find yourself excusing the abusive behavior
3. You lack confidence and second guess yourself constantly
4. You struggle to make decisions on your own
5. You often feel like you can't do anything right.
I know many of these may sound the same, and you are right. If someone is telling us that what we thought happened, didn't happen. Or that the abuse we swear we sustained wasn't really that bad, we will begin to not trust our own mind or memory. This can make us feel bad about who we are and erode our confidence. Luckily there are things we can do to get out of these relationships!
1. Seek outside support. I would prefer it be both friends and a professional. The reason for this is because we will need someone who can help us heal from the abuse while we will need a friend or family member to help us when we question how things happened. Having both onboard is best!
2. Start using feeling charts. I know this may be annoying, but in order to begin acknowledging how we feel and accepting it, we will need to check in with ourselves each day and notice how we feel.
3. Work on the self talk! You know this is my favorite thing, but it can truly change your life. Work to talk positively to yourself by saying 5 nice things at the end of each day.
4. Set boundaries! Say no! Here are some videos to help with that: https://youtu.be/KhW4g9urdXQ https://youtu.be/vAcWIRuoZRc
5. Mindfulness! Take time each day to pull your focus in and notice how you are feeling, what may be upsetting you and find ways to start verbalizing it. We have to build up the trust between us and our mind again. This is a great way to start. Please share this video! So many of you have requested this topic, and that means that many others are suffering in silence. You never know who may need to hear this! xoxo
Narcissistic Personality Disorder: https://youtu.be/vjaeBMseW3o
Anti-Social Personality Disorder: https://youtu.be/VSdyktUjZSI

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