He's Pulled Away - Here's What To Do... (Why men pull away)

“He's Pulled Away - Here's What To Do... (Why men pull away) ”

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This video is all about he's pulled away and what do you do?
Clayton and Jack are hoping to give you some perspectives about how to orient to a man when this is happening that might just serve you to feel more empowered, to feel less in pain and to kind of feel more okay about the relationship.

[02:49] Don’t Take His Behavior Personally

The first one is don't take it personally as hard as that is. Which is to say that it might be much more about him than it is about you. That he has a need for some space, for some autonomy. You know we were talking the other day and went out for dinner and you were saying there's you know there's a reason we have a man cave.

[05:51] Make Requests, Rather Than Demands
Oftentimes when a man does something you don't like, your tendency might be to criticize him, blame him, cajole him, humiliate him, pressure him. All sorts of kind of underhand tactics if you will, rather than not cleanly ask for what is it that you want.

Which could be, “Hey. When you take space and we come in back into connection, it would really benefit me if you could just hold me for five minutes? That would allow me to feel connected to you again.” Or, “if you're gonna take space of more than you know one or two days I would love to know that just in a quick text or call me or whatever works for you.”

And the way that you know that it's a request rather than a demand is that I can say yes or no to your request. We might negotiate, or we might come to a better compromise or better adjustment but making a request is he gets to say yes or no to what it is you're asking.

[07:39] Don’t Subjectify Him

And what that fancy word subjectify mean is don't imagine that when he does something, he does it with the same way that you would do that thing, or with the same intention that you would do that thing. So, typically as a woman, if you're pulling away from your man it's something different than when a man is pulling away from you because your need for space and autonomy and rest may be different to his need.

So, it might be that you have a pattern that when someone really upsets you, you create a little bit of a wall maybe like a stone wall and you withdraw, and you pull away and that's a kind of defense. And that may or may not be happening with him, so it's almost like don't assume that you know what's going on. Get curious and don't imagine that the thing that would be true for you is true for him.

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