136. Emotional Healing: A Personal Road Map

Some honest words for you about my own journey of healing. (You can read the text on its own here: http://thefourqueens.blogspot.co.uk/2013/10/emotional-healing-write-up.html )

Getting raw and honest was part of the necessary work which aided my progression so much. I feel that offering the same raw honesty to those of you who may be in need of it now will help to trigger the deep desire for healing and change which is somewhere within. Remember, just one genuine moment of communion with the self is all it takes to know that you can hold your own hand and that you're never alone. Those who can engage in meaningful inner dialogue have a much greater chance of being able to soothe, inspire and reassure themselves when they are in isolation from others or when they feel unable to trust others. There is a difference between loneliness and solitude. Inner dialogue is the bridge between one and the other. This has been my overwhelming life experience.

What is your time perspective? Where do you spend the majority of your mental life? Are you present? Does it feel scary or unsafe or boring to be present? Are you enslaved by your future plans? Are you living in the past? Either regretting it or wishing it would come back into being? Consciously attempting to shift your time perspective can lead to radical acceptance in a big way. Remember, radical acceptance alone is not enough to cause radical CHANGE. One can have a moment of radical acceptance and then decide that they are not strong enough to instigate change or that they are simply not willing. You have to DESIRE change. That's kind of a given. Radical acceptance knocks you on your arse. It's 'radical' in that way. Often, you will not know that you're truly ready for change until radical acceptance knocks on the door, but sometimes you go looking for it and it's still not enough. WILLINGNESS is EVERYTHING in RECOVERY.

Victimhood is linked to accountability. When we fall prey to long-term victimhood it ceases to become part of a healthy process and evidently becomes a place we have dropped anchor. Succumbing to victimhood means that the conscious willingness to take accountability for what happens next becomes completely impossible. I was in victimhood mode for a long time and it never served me. It was holding me back so intensely that I had to acknowledge it and release it. This was so tough and there were many tears. I realised that I was mourning the little girl who reserved the right to sulk if things weren't fair in life, and in place of that little girl there stood a strong, independent woman who was ready to move forward!

Get creative. Don't feel ashamed. Don't feel unworthy. See yourself as a potent creative being because you ARE.

Much love x

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