How to Parent with Awareness with Dr. Dan Siegel – ReRelease

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How to Parent with Awareness

This podcast delves deep into the concept of awareness and how we can become more present in parenting, teaching and coaching when working with children. Using the Wheel of Awareness by Dr. Dan Siegel, we can get more centered and focus on what really matters. Becoming aware can be beneficial to our relationships, our mental health and our physical health!

Parenting these days can be very reactionary. We have lots of pressure and little time and often many feelings of not being enough, constantly striving, competing with others and overall disconnection. We have big reactions or, perhaps we might say, our big reactions have us. But what if we practiced more aware parenting? What if we become more in touch with our own senses, our mental state, our bodies and our relationship to ourselves and to others and how our awareness could affect our parenting and our lives? When we become aware and reflective of our reactions and what is indeed feeding these reactions, we can become more receptive, calm, balanced, compassionate and positive in the way we parent our kids and more balanced in our own wellbeing. And imagine what we can teach our kids—by showing awareness and practicing awareness, we can then teach them to the do the same in their own lives. Is there a way to cultivate this awareness? Is there a way to teach our kids to practice awareness as children and teenagers? For these questions and more, we turn to our guest today, Dr. Dan Siegel.

Dr. Siegel is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and the founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA. He is also the Executive Director of the Mind-sight Institute which focuses on the development of mind-sight, which teaches insight, empathy, and integration in individuals, families and communities.

Dr. Siegel has published extensively for both the professional and lay audiences. His four New York Timesbestsellers are:

Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human ,
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain ,
and two books with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D: The Whole-Brain Childand No-Drama Discipline.
His other books include: The Developing Mind (2ndEd.), The Pocket Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology, Mind-sight, The Mindful Brain, The Mindful Therapist , The Yes Brain (also with Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D), and hisbook Aware, coming out this month.

Dr. Siegel also serves as the Founding Editor for the Norton Professional Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology  which contains over sixty textbooks.  

The podcast provides:

Tips: How to parent with awareness and how awareness can impact all different parts of parenting and relationships
How trauma or past “baggage” can affect parenting and how being aware of this “baggage” can help this problem.
A discussion of the wheel of awareness and how this tool can be used by parents and kids.
Scripts: How to Talk to Kids through the wheel of awareness

Important Messages:
Awareness helps us out doing old habits.
When you are aware, you can make a choice that is different than being on automatic pilot.
You can make your container of consciousness larger which helps you to make better choices.
Being aware of your feelings—and you are in a threat stage- you are in fight, flight, flee or faint. These are primitive reactions to threat- awareness can help you think through the impulse. You are looking for the pause.
We can change the size of our container of consciousness—the “salt” is like the challenge of life. Is the container huge or tiny?
You can use the picture of a wheel of awareness for kids.
For parents or other adults, you can move through the different segments of the wheel from senses, to body awareness, etc. It distinguishes what you can be aware of as opposed to what you are currently aware of.
The single point on the rim of the wheel of awareness doesn’t need to be the totality of reality. Your awareness, once expanded, dwarfs that one challenge so that it doesn’t overwhelm or take over—and you can make better choices. You put a buffer or a pause between the impulse and action. You are also cultivating a direct path to additional choices.
Presence changes our relationships. It helps you to see things as close to the way they are as you can.
When you are aware in parenting—if you are a child with a parent who is truly present, if you express something, the parent will do three things—(1) receive the signal, (2) make sense of the signal in an open way and (3) respond to what the child expresses in a timely and effective fashion. This is called contingent communication. Then the child is seen for who s/he authentically is. We LEARN who we are through the responses of our caregiver.
When the caregiver is present, you learn who you are in an authentic way (secure attachment). When a parent doesn’t have presence, it

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