BPD & the All or Nothing Relationship

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Splitting is common in those with PDs, particularly those with NPD and BPD. Seeing people and situations as either black or white, or as all good or all bad is something that is also often applied to relationships. Many individuals along the NPD, BPD spectrum tend to see their relationships as all or nothing relationships, and this tends to cause significant difficulty in getting satisfaction out of those relationships, and it also increases the likelihood of relationship failure. In this video, we’re going to explore the all-or-nothing relationship.

Splitting is a defense mechanism to keep the individual safe. It is often used once the individual’s core content is activated. If you’ve seen my other videos you know what I mean by core content.

Splitting may make you feel safe in the short-term, but it tends to create many more issue in the long-term, such as depression, anxiety, fear, and even paranoia and psychosis in some cases.

How to prevent the all or nothing relationship? Identify your core content, what is it inside you that drives you to feel the need to see your partner and your relationship as all encompassing? That thing that drives you, which may be abandonment, emptiness, worthlessness, vulnerability, etc. is your core content. Once you know your core content, then you need to recognize when it gets activated. Under what situations do you feel scared that you’re not getting 100% from your partner, that you don’t know 100% of your partner, and when do you demand the full 100% from your partner? When you know this, you can then challenge it. A mantra is a great tool to challenge your all or nothing relationship and to help lessen the intense need to split.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 15 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

The Clinician’s Guide to Diagnosis and Treatment of Personality Disorders: https://goo.gl/ZAVe9v

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

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