How Healthy Boundaries Prevent Narcissistic & Psychopathic Manipulation

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This video answers the questions: Can I discuss manipulation and boundaries? What are some signs of manipulation? Healthy boundaries are actually a great defense against manipulation. Even though anybody can be manipulated under the right circumstances, healthy boundaries certainly reduce the chances of that.

Here are some examples of potentially manipulative behavior:

- lying
- critical, judgmental (pointing out weaknesses)
- strong emotions (negative & positive), anger, violent gestures, staring
- appearing desperate
- being pressured for an immediate decision
- use past statements to make you seem inconsistent
- gaslighting
- arguing after hearing “no”
- distorting your words
- acting immaturely
- trying to bypass reason - “follow your heart” “go with gut feeling”
- unclear answers, evasive
- superficial charm
- avoiding surveillance cameras, onlookers
- oversharing in an effort to gain reciprocity (to use it against you)
- not reacting to your discomfort or obvious signs of wanting to end the discussion
- saying one thing, but doing another
- not listening
- physical contact when clearly uncomfortable
- emphasize a commonality - trying to make a connection
- wanting you to do something that is not typical for the kind of relationship you have

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Noggle, R. (2018). Manipulation, salience, and nudges. Bioethics, 32(3), 164–170.

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