HOW DO YOU CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS?

We become the sum of the people we spend our time with, so choosing our friends is an act of self cultivation. One effective way to choose friends is to be on the lookout for people who bring interesting and enriching things to your attention. As psychologist William James wrote: “your experience is what you attend to”. Those individuals who bring interesting things to your attention are people who are effectively expanding your world and enriching your lived experience by the very nature of the things they notice and the insights they share. They are broadening your awareness. What they are also doing is revealing themselves: “for as a man is, so he sees,” as Blake wrote. “We don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are”.... and so through what they observe and what they notice, they are showing their true character, their filter on the world, their essential nature. So one compliment I often pay to my friends is this: “I love the things you notice when we hang out... I love noticing what you notice..”. That’s refreshing!

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