Narcissist Manipulation. How to shut down a narcissist

In this video, I talk about narcissist manipulation in relationships and toxic workplaces. How to shut down a narcissist.

There are two types of empathy: Cognitive Empathy and Emotional Empathy.

Empath Definition: Empaths have Cognitive Empathy - which is the basic, instinctive emotions like anger, fear etc. But they also have Emotional Empathy - which allows you to translate those base emotions to more appropriate feelings. The rational, adult overrides those basic instincts.

Narcissists have Cognitive Empathy. But they lack Emotional Empathy. A Narcissist can see Empaths can relate to others' feelings as their own. The difference is they can't. They have to mimic it.

They are brilliant at reading people almost instantaneously. They act as though they feel those feelings that they can't.

When you first meet a narcissist they're charming. They think as you do, act as you do, speak as you do. They study you and mirror you.

Essentially, they reflect your own fantasy back to you. This doesn't just apply to relationships. It could be someone you interview for a job at your work. They're brilliant in interviews because they tell you exactly what you want to hear.

Narcissist Bosses are a nightmare to work with and will be at the centre of a toxic workplace.

They'll play favourites and pit one person against the other. They'll publicly humiliate you in front of your colleagues. The best thing to do is to leave.

However, be careful because narcissists are vindictive and wage smear campaigns.

Be the perfect employee. Keep your head down. Try to engage with them as little as possible and if you have to don’t allow emotion to come into it. If you're given instructions by them, always confirm it in writing in case you might need it later. If you're going off to have job interviews do not get caught by them.

Narcissist relationship patterns: The same thing applies to relationships.

They're charming. They study you, observe you.

They make you fall in love with them by mirroring you.

Narcissists target people they detect they can manipulate because the ultimate game of a narcissist is to have total control over you.

They test your boundaries from the minute you meet them, using manipulative tactics.

They'll test to see whether you'll tolerate coercive control.

If your boundaries keep falling down, they know you're a safe bet. You can be a narcissistic supply for them - for the status you give them, wealth, a place to live or whatever it is they need.

They keep this charm offensive up until they know they have reeled you in and it’s harder for you to leave.

You and any children are their possessions. They have the right to control you.

If they can't they'll go into a narcissistic rage.

They'll discard you. Or, abuse you.

Narcissistic abuse: Emotional abuse can descend into physical abuse. Ultimately, they may kill you.

That happens to two women every week. (Men are victims too).

They won't change because they believe they're superior to us as they know they can so easily manipulate Empaths.

We are the ones who'll feel responsible for them, sorry for them and guilty if we leave them, even after their abuse.

Abuse will only get worse.

Plan to leave safely.

Do not tell them: I am leaving you. You could trigger narcissistic rage.

How do you shut down a narcissist?

Become a grey rock. Cut off their narcissist supply.

So boring to them they get bored with you.

Try to observe their behavior and see it for what it is and stay neutral.

Charm them, flatter their ego and make them believe you are being compliant with them.

But secretly take notes with times and dates or any unacceptable behavior.

Keep a record because you may need this later, as they could start a legal battle, particularly over children.

Set up your own bank account, squirrel money away.

Find a new place or a shelter that you can escape to.

Line up a job if you don't have one already.

Get help and support.

But plan to get away from them without them finding out.

Then if you have to engage with them, disengage as much as you can.

If you don't have children with them or business together, then go cold turkey and cut all contact.

Block them on phones and social media.

If you have to deal with them then only deal with them through a Third Party or in the very factual least-amount-of-words-possible basis.

It there are children involved then use another person as the neutral go-between - a lawyer or trusted family member or friend.

If you can't then don't engage in any emotional discussion.

Always stick to the facts.

They will try to press your buttons to react emotionally.

They will use whatever you say back at you as a weapon to hurt you.

For example, telling other people you're the crazy one.

Fantasy bond: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O9rddgfTizM

Dr Jekyll is Mr Hyde: https://youtu.be/16a-bxF4MbU

Going Cold Turkey: https://youtu.be/FAjYgD2ehX8

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