My Ex Told Me I Deserve Better

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Do they mean it?

In my experience when it comes to breakups they don't mean it.

The Philosophical Discussion On Ethics:
Is every action a human being takes based on self-interest?

Altruism: the belief in or practice of disinterested and selfless concern for the well-being of others.

Someone willing to sacrifice their life for another.

Vs.

Psychological Egoist: Says that all of our actions are always self-interested

Hedonistic psychological egoism. This is the view stated by the 18th-century philosopher Jeremy Bentham which basically states that people only ever act in ways which they take to maximize their pleasure and minimize their pain.

INTENT MATTERS VERY MUCH
Let's Use An Example From My Private Facebook Support Group Where A Man Actually Said This To One Of My Clients,

"Today is 9/45 NC and although he hurt me due to his depression, I can’t help but think that’s the only reason we are apart. Then I have to keep telling myself that if he truly wanted me, he’d reach out in the right way. It’s so hard for me not to tell him I love him and know he’s struggling but I know he needs time to himself to figure life out. Has anyone here been through something like this; depressed ERP who said “I’m broken and you deserve better and I keep messing it up with us” who eventually realized they were stupid for letting you go?"

Changing the Narrative so that it's about you and your expectations as opposed to the shortcomings they have.

Hero Complex Mentality and Victim Mentality and how it relates to the persona

Carl Jung was a big believer of this concept of integrating the shadow:

What Is The Shadow?: The shadow is the “dark side” of our personality because it consists chiefly of primitive, negative human emotions and impulses like rage, envy, greed, selfishness, desire, and the striving for power.
We can’t eliminate the shadow. It stays with us as our dark brother or sister. Trouble arises when we fail to see it. For then, to be sure, it is standing right behind us.

Persona: In every public arena we present an exaggerated version of ourselves which we hope will make an impression. The character we display in our occupation is not the same as at home. When alone we have no one to impress, but in public, we wear a mask, a persona so that we might impose a desirable image of ourselves onto others.

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0:00 Intro
1:18 Do they mean it?
2:43 Philosophy
8:16 Psychology
10:03 The Shadow Concept
12:30 The Persona
15:18 Ending

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