Instantaneous Rapport!

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Rapport is a powerful and essential skill for communicating, coaching, sales, or anything that involves human interaction.

In NLP we're taught to match and mirror peoples' posture and gestures. We're also taught to match the other person's breathing in order to build rapport.

These are all great techniques and will build skills and I recommend that you at least try them. They can be frustrating though when you're first starting out to do all of this especially if you're also trying to watch eye accessing cues and skin tone changes and listen to voice tone changes.

Would you like a way to hack this so you can start right now building instant rapport with anyone?

Steve Andreas, as part of his self-concept model, created this incredible technique.

We all have an imaginary border we put around us, at least one. Some people have more than one and most of us have different borders for different contexts.

Choose a context in which gaining rapport quickly would benefit you most. Imagine yourself there. Now think of someone you don't know suddenly invading your space getting so close to you that they make you uncomfortable.

Imagine them slowly stepping back until they are out of your space. Notice that point where you feel comfortable again.

You've just identified your personal border (at least for this context). 

Get a sense of the shape of that border. Is it a perfect circle? Is it oval? Square? 

How far does it extend around you? Does the border have a color? If not, give it one. Try out different colors to see how each color affects you if at all.

Is there a different color inside your border than outside your border? If so, play around with these colors. Is it brighter inside or outside your border?

Once you've played around with this a bit, imagine the last time you were really in rapport with someone. Step into yourself, fully associated, as if you're actually there interacting with the person you felt in rapport with.

Now become aware of your border. Is this person inside or outside your border?

More than likely they are inside your border because that's what rapport is, letting down your guard with someone and trusting them.

Now think of someone who you don't get along with. Imagine their in front of you right now. Where is your border in relation to them?

It's likely they're outside your border. Try extending your border and letting them in. How do you feel about this person now?

It may not be appropriate to be in rapport with this person. If it's not, put your border back so it can protect you.

First chance you get to try this with someone, extend your border around them. This is fun to do with someone you've just met.

More than likely you will gain instant rapport and if you have NLP training, notice how much easier it is to mirror and match them and to match their breathing when they're inside your border.

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Instantaneous Rapport!
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