resisting emotional blackmail | when 'compassion' corrupts [cc]

An exploration of some mechanics behind emotional blackmail — and in invitation to all parties to step out of it.
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opening quote:
We’re each entitled to stay inside our comfort zones.
We’re not entitled to expect the rest of the world to join us.
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0:00 uncomfortable effects of comfort
3:21 emotion — a double-edged sword
7:54 comfort zones
10:12 oiling the squeaky wheel
13:48 compassion vs enabling
17:32 coping with other people's coping mechanisms
23:28 rationalisation
29:00 rational mindful solutions
29:57 summary
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references
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Damasio, A. (1994) Descartes' error: emotion, reason, and the human brain. Putnam, New York
Kay, A.C., Gaucher, D., Napier, J.L., Callan, M.J. and Kaurin, K. (2008) God and the government: testing a compensatory control mechanism for the support of external systems. Journal of personality and social psychology 95 (1) pp.18-35
Kool, W., McGuire, J.T., Rosen, Z.B. and Botvinick, M.M. (2010) Decision making and the avoidance of cognitive demand. Journal of experimental psychology: general 139 (4), pp.665-682
Lindeman, M. and Aarnio, K. (2007) Superstitious, magical, and paranormal beliefs: an integrative model. Journal of research in personality 41 pp.731-744
Malinowski, B. (1948) Magic, science, and religion and other essays. Beacon Press, Boston
Zajonc, R.B. (1980) Feeling and thinking: preferences need no inferences. American psychologist 35 pp.151-175
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