Why You Keep Attracting the Same Partner with Sarah Baldwin

If every relationship you've had has felt different on the surface but the same underneath, this conversation will finally explain why — and what to actually do about it.

I'm joined by Sarah Baldwin, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, member of the Polyvagal Theory training team, and one of the most extraordinary voices in trauma resolution working today. Sarah shares her own healing journey with remarkable rawness, and together we go deep into parts work, attachment patterns, and why your nervous system is running the show in your relationships until you consciously change what's in its database.
We talk about how protective parts form in childhood, why romantic relationships activate every wound you have ever had, what it means that your nervous system is literally arranging your relationships for you, and how to finally tell the difference between adult truth and a part speaking from the past. This one is deep, poetic, and genuinely one of the most powerful conversations this show has ever held.

👉🏼In this episode:
-How protective and vulnerable parts form and travel through your life
-Why your nervous system picks your romantic partners — and how to change that
-The family system as a theatrical play and the roles assigned to us in childhood
-Why the same stressor feels fine with a friend and catastrophic with a partner
-Trauma healing is state dependent — and what that means for relationships
-The sequoia tree: how to know if it's adult you or a part speaking
-Why healthy relationships are not easy relationships
-Falling in love with your parts — including the ones that were trying to push your partner off the trail
-How Sarah healed 25 years of dissociation and built a life she describes as exquisite
-Why embodying this work grew her business 40% while she gave it 50% less energy

✨Connect with Sarah:
https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/

Free Workbook: https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/how-to-gain-control-over-how-you-feel-workbook

Navigating Your Nervous System Waitlist: https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/navigating-your-nervous-system-waitlist

https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

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DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:
Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted

00:00 — Introduction: why Marina was nervous to ask Sarah for this interview
03:00 — Sarah's childhood: an unflinching account of where this work comes from
12:00 — The nuance of trauma: why not all suffering is the same, and why that matters
17:30 — Parts explained: what they are, how they form, and why they travel in pairs
25:00 — Why people pleasing is not a personality trait — it's a protective part
31:00 — The family system as a theatrical play: the roles we were assigned before we could speak
38:00 — Arranged relationships: how your nervous system chooses your partners
45:30 — The sequoia tree: embodiment as the only way to know your truth
53:00 — Testing in relationships — and what it's really asking for
58:30 — How to tell if you're scared because someone is safe, or because they're wrong for you
1:05:00 — The last 10%: why some healing can only happen inside a romantic relationship
1:11:00 — Falling in love with your parts — all of them
1:18:00 — How embodying this work grew Sarah's business while she gave it less energy
1:23:00 — How to work with Sarah Baldwin

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