3 Things Not to Say to Someone with Dementia

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Mistake #1: "Remember?"
As a new caregiver, this can be a hard habit to break. When our memory is working, it's easy to be reminded of things we may have temporarily forgotten. However, when someone has dementia, their ability to remember even the most recent events is shot.

While you can hold onto the memory of putting something down yourself but not remembering where you put it because you weren't paying attention. Your LO will loose the memory of moving something all together.

The most common reactions I've seen when these phrases are used are anger, being defensive or your LO accusing you of wrongdoing simply because the memory isn't there for them at all. How you should respond instead is to simply answer their question and not have an expectation of them holding onto even the smallest of short term memories like they would have before.

Mistake #2: "I Already Told You"
Something most new caregivers don't know is how often some folks with dementia will ask the same questions over and over again. The good news is that usually this tends to be a phase that passes as the disease progresses. The bad news is, for everyone how long it lasts if different.

Instead of saying "I already told you" as it not only frustrates you and your LO but also doesn't stop the repeating is 3 things
1) just calmly answer the question and see it as you exercising your patience
2) Sometimes repeating is your LO attempt at finding something familiar. Playing a old song they know will fulfill this need and can be a temporary fix to repeating
3) Give yourself time away from your LO whether it is through headphones or someone else caring for them

Mistake #3: "You have to do x"
Anytime I have heard any caregiver say this to someone with dementia, I pretty much know it's going to end badly. The reason being is that no one no matter who they are likes to be told they have to do something and when someone with dementia is trying to do something dangerous.

Like get up when they can fall or wander off it's easy to command or be firm like a parent might be with their child. Unlike children however, our LO with dementia are usually music bigger and stronger than children and even beyond that, they are adults who still deserve some say in their lives

What I say instead is "What do you need outside or why do you want X?" This way you understand what they actually need. If what they want or need you can't get them or they can't do it safety, give them a choice of an alternative

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