How to be happy alone | 4 ways to remain happy around couples

How to be happy around couples who have what you want. 4 secrets to being happy while single.

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Someone wrote me and asked me in essence how to stay happy while witnessing everyone around you having and enjoying the things that you want. Specifically relationships. She like many other women is at times surrounded by people who are realizing her dream of a happy relationship. This, While she herself is weary and tired and losing hope. She wanted to know How not to let it affect her. I suppose there’s no magic words or answer to make any her or anyone like her feel better. I won’t try to make one up. My goal here is to help put things back in the proper perspective. To separate the feelings from the reality.

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If you find that being around happy couples makes you sad, I’d like to remind you of a very important detail. Your only seeing the podium.
You’re only seeing the podium. People stand on podiums when they win Olympic medals or other contests. Most people just see first second or third place. The gold the silver and the bronze. You don’t see the time, the stress, the tired nights alone or the broken bones. All you see is a winner and their greatness. Single people often view couples through the same narrow prism and it compounds their fears and insecurities about worth and loneliness. It separates them even further from fulfillment and contentment.

You have no idea what some people who may seem happy now have been through before. You missed their struggle. You missed their tears. You miss their rejections. Their disappointments. You didn’t witness the times they were used for their bodies or their money. Or when they were abused or assaulted in pursuit of happiness. All you see is their gold medal as you make them your #relationship goals. The grass isn’t always greener. And some people’s road to happiness is so traumatic that you would never want to trade places with them. The great but in perfect relationship that people may have now doesn’t even seem like justice enough for what they have gone through in their lives.

There are women who hate on other women who appear to be in good relationships. Even to the point of anger and jealousy. If all you see is her NOW you don’t know what her THEN was like. If you did you would be more inspired and encouraged than jealous and sad. You would praise God for their relationships and celebrate for them. Never forget that STRUGGLE proceeds victory.

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It’s important to remember that dating is a game of matches. You just haven’t met your match yet. And as sad as it sounds many of those people that you think are so happy unfortunately still may have not found their match yet as well. Don’t hang your hat on this but some people have a rough tumultuous future ahead of them with their partners. Watching people in their honeymoon phase can be very misleading. Some haven’t properly vetted their partners before committing themselves. Take no solace in their pain to come but many of you are single because of your commitment to having a quality relationship as opposed to what you may be witnessing in some people. Some people in the relationships you are witnessing have chosen poorly and would be better of single than to endure whats to come of the relationship they are currently in. Many have a rough road ahead. You are taking your time to find the RIGHT person for YOU. Continue to do so. That way you never have to utter the words “well at least I got a man”, in defense of a shitty one. Again don’t rejoice in that fact. Just be aware of it to prevent yourself from being jealous or unhappy. The optics are often better than the reality...cont

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