Gay men, we built a coping mechanism, not community.

I’ll probably get hate for this one. That’s fine.

Gay liberation gave us so much. But somewhere along the way, community turned into parties, cruises and weekend-long benders. And no one checked whether the party was actually making us free or just making the pain bearable enough for us to function.

The rejection from your family. The shame from the church. The erasure at school. We took all of that and turned it into an aesthetic.

Drinks, dancing, and calling it freedom.

I’m not saying stop going out. I’m saying notice what you’re carrying when you walk in. And notice what you need to bring with you to walk back out okay.

What would happen if you learned to sit with your loneliness, rejection, shame and discomfort in silence rather than escape it? Who would you be if you mapped out a vision of your life without the drinks, substances and numbing behaviors?

➡️That’s the work we do in Calm, Clear and Sober: www.malulaniyoga.com/sober-off

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