5 reasons why guys give a minimal effort. When guys pull away.

5 reasons He’s not trying.
The Minimal Effort Guy. Part 1

Part 2 here: https://youtu.be/2pyYzfst8Gk

Hey Ladies! This is part one of a two part series about why some of you at getting minimal efforts from guys. I didn’t want to cram them into one long video so I broke it up.
This first list focuses on the reasons you may be able to influence or control. The other list focuses predominantly on the reasons outside of your reach and responsibility.

A lot of times women write me and they ask why the guys they are talking to seem so hot 🥵 a cold 🥶. Why do they at first seem interested or even aggressive but then ultimately back off of trying. Even to the point of distance. Well these are the first 5. To get the second 5 watch the other video.

You ruined the dynamic by pursuing-
A man’s initial effort comes because of the need to pursue a woman to get increased access to her. To do that a must must offer himself to a woman. When courting a woman efforts are made to grow with her incrementally. By first entertaining her, and then gaining her trust, finally becoming important to her emotionally. Once these have been accomplished access is granted to her heart. And simultaneously throughout the process certain standards of effort have been set. The behaviors that nurtured progress with that woman are continued into the relationship. The behaviors that didn’t help are abandoned. When women offer themselves to men by pursuing them. As the pursuer, they grant almost instant access to all the things about them that a man would have otherwise worked for. It sets a dynamic for him to grant access instead of seek access. He learns through your behavior that he is the prize and nothing is required of him but to be entertained. Women who chase men often think they’ve made progress because they see moments or days of sexual aggression from the guy. When we get hungry we eat. When we get ornery we fut. Libido is instinct. It’s not a pursuit. To prevent confusion only step forward when he does. In the beginning be responsive to his efforts and at the most match them. Let him earn his time with you.
Don’t take over to force growth in the relationship. Don’t compensate for his non action with action.

You set the bar to low- I speak to a lot of women who accept first dates or any dates in the very beginning to some guys house or to a bar. After a couple spotty sporadic text messages he wants to meet in the laziest way possible and she accepts because she likes him. Even though he hasn’t even used her number to talk to her. Just to set up the lazy date. She has simultaneously set his bar for communication low and set his bar for entertainment low. Women often times don’t know how to say no or do better when presented with subpar effort from guys. As things move forward they wonder why things aren’t getting better. A mans Excitement and effort are usually the highest in the very beginning. As he gets settled and learns to trust the relationship his effort calms down a bit. Men who start with high effort settle in a more sustainable but still attentive place. Men who start at the bottom of the effort scale tend to stay at the bottom. On the bright side of things, low effort men are often telegraphing how dull long term life is like with them so you don’t have to guess. To prevent this say no lazy dates. Stop going to guys houses to hang out before they’ve shown consistent effort to really entertain you. Stop going on bar dates before you really know if you could enjoy a guys company sober. Stop getting banged in cars, on couches, and cheap motels by the new men in your life. Set a standard of quality. Don’t be afraid to say. This is how often we need to talk, these are the type of dates I like. This is what it takes to get me and keep me. Don’t be afraid to scare a guy off with standards....

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