How To Get Over Sports Fears
http://www.mentaltoughnesstrainer.com
Sports Fears
In this video, you will learn mental toughness tips what I shared with a group of wrestlers right before they went out to compete in their tournament. They won as a team by one point.
What is performance anxiety? Well, to cut to the chase it's this: fear. This is the number one problem in all sports. Fear of embarrassing yourself, fear of disappointing your parents, fear of disappointing your coaches, your teammates. Fear — right? Fear of not doing so well.
Alright, so here's how I help people get over fear. First of all, we're going to break it down. We do fear for two reasons. For physical danger and because we are afraid of our emotions. Now, this is something that you don't hear too often.
What are we really afraid of about losing when we under perform in a match? We're afraid of embarrassment, we are disappointments, what else? What else are we afraid of that might happen? Some people are afraid of getting angry. Some people are afraid of the sadness that might come from it.
But I always ask my athletes, "So if you lose, what's going to happen? Is someone going to shoot you if you lose this game?" No. No physical danger there. "Is somebody going to take your house away and your food and your clothing and shelter?" No. "Is there anything physical?"
No. So what is it that we are afraid of? Well, all emotions including fear, they're just chemicals running through your body. Let me give you the breakdown of what happens.
You're going against a guy who crushed you the last time you went. Or you know he is the best around and has an undefeated record. And you're starting to get tense and you're starting to get nervous. What's going on?
Chemicals just got released in your body and then they attach to cells, fibers, tissues, even muscles, even bones. And they make your body feel something. So there's an emotion — fear. And then there's a feeling. It is the feeling that hurts your performance. Going out there on fire feeling like you're going to kill this guy or scared to death. It's not even close — right?
So that's our whole goal to is to get into that state. All you have to do is tell yourself, "Huh! Look at that! I've got some chemicals doing some things in my body. There's nothing to worry about outside of my body.
We as athletes, we as human beings, tend to blow this fear thing up and feel like our whole life has come apart here. We just need to remember that literally, they're just chemicals. That's all that's going on. There's no outside force punishing you. Feeling of fear and by the way goes for all your feelings: anger, sadness, guilt, hurt, shame, embarrassment, rejection -- They're just chemicals.
Let me tell you a quick story. You guys might experience this. A few years ago I was in the dating world and I asked this woman out for a date. We had a good time. Afterwards I write her an email, "Hey! I enjoyed our date and I'd like to get to know you better." The next morning there's an email saying, "You know I enjoyed the time too, but I'm not interested in you romantically. I just want to be your friend."
Now, at first, I'm feeling rejection. So this pertains to wrestling, because you guys are all in some way have going to experience rejection or the fear of losing. So what do I do?
I actually feel like this hole in my gut. I don't know if you guys have ever been dumped by a girl or not or anybody for that matter. It doesn't feel very good. So the tendency is to go, "I suck. There must be something wrong with me. I must not be good enough.
No, this is what you should do! Instead say, "Look at that. There's some chemicals making my stomach making me feel that way. That's kind of interesting. I'm just going to be in it for a while. They are just chemicals." The truth of the situation is she was just saying "we're not a match."
In any relationship, either side can say we're not a match. That's being truthful. It doesn't mean I'm not good enough or I'm not good enough as a person. It doesn't mean I'm not good looking enough. It doesn't mean I'm not smart enough. None of that. You can use the same techniques and tools out there on the mat. Do you understand the metaphor? It's just chemicals. That's what I want you guys to tell yourself. This is how you get over rejection and sports fears!
Visit http://www.teenmentaltoughness.com to download FREE:
"The 10 Commandments For A Great Sports Parent" ebook
and "Master The Pressure" a GAME-CHANGING guided visualization for teen athletes.
Видео How To Get Over Sports Fears канала Mental Toughness Trainer
Sports Fears
In this video, you will learn mental toughness tips what I shared with a group of wrestlers right before they went out to compete in their tournament. They won as a team by one point.
What is performance anxiety? Well, to cut to the chase it's this: fear. This is the number one problem in all sports. Fear of embarrassing yourself, fear of disappointing your parents, fear of disappointing your coaches, your teammates. Fear — right? Fear of not doing so well.
Alright, so here's how I help people get over fear. First of all, we're going to break it down. We do fear for two reasons. For physical danger and because we are afraid of our emotions. Now, this is something that you don't hear too often.
What are we really afraid of about losing when we under perform in a match? We're afraid of embarrassment, we are disappointments, what else? What else are we afraid of that might happen? Some people are afraid of getting angry. Some people are afraid of the sadness that might come from it.
But I always ask my athletes, "So if you lose, what's going to happen? Is someone going to shoot you if you lose this game?" No. No physical danger there. "Is somebody going to take your house away and your food and your clothing and shelter?" No. "Is there anything physical?"
No. So what is it that we are afraid of? Well, all emotions including fear, they're just chemicals running through your body. Let me give you the breakdown of what happens.
You're going against a guy who crushed you the last time you went. Or you know he is the best around and has an undefeated record. And you're starting to get tense and you're starting to get nervous. What's going on?
Chemicals just got released in your body and then they attach to cells, fibers, tissues, even muscles, even bones. And they make your body feel something. So there's an emotion — fear. And then there's a feeling. It is the feeling that hurts your performance. Going out there on fire feeling like you're going to kill this guy or scared to death. It's not even close — right?
So that's our whole goal to is to get into that state. All you have to do is tell yourself, "Huh! Look at that! I've got some chemicals doing some things in my body. There's nothing to worry about outside of my body.
We as athletes, we as human beings, tend to blow this fear thing up and feel like our whole life has come apart here. We just need to remember that literally, they're just chemicals. That's all that's going on. There's no outside force punishing you. Feeling of fear and by the way goes for all your feelings: anger, sadness, guilt, hurt, shame, embarrassment, rejection -- They're just chemicals.
Let me tell you a quick story. You guys might experience this. A few years ago I was in the dating world and I asked this woman out for a date. We had a good time. Afterwards I write her an email, "Hey! I enjoyed our date and I'd like to get to know you better." The next morning there's an email saying, "You know I enjoyed the time too, but I'm not interested in you romantically. I just want to be your friend."
Now, at first, I'm feeling rejection. So this pertains to wrestling, because you guys are all in some way have going to experience rejection or the fear of losing. So what do I do?
I actually feel like this hole in my gut. I don't know if you guys have ever been dumped by a girl or not or anybody for that matter. It doesn't feel very good. So the tendency is to go, "I suck. There must be something wrong with me. I must not be good enough.
No, this is what you should do! Instead say, "Look at that. There's some chemicals making my stomach making me feel that way. That's kind of interesting. I'm just going to be in it for a while. They are just chemicals." The truth of the situation is she was just saying "we're not a match."
In any relationship, either side can say we're not a match. That's being truthful. It doesn't mean I'm not good enough or I'm not good enough as a person. It doesn't mean I'm not good looking enough. It doesn't mean I'm not smart enough. None of that. You can use the same techniques and tools out there on the mat. Do you understand the metaphor? It's just chemicals. That's what I want you guys to tell yourself. This is how you get over rejection and sports fears!
Visit http://www.teenmentaltoughness.com to download FREE:
"The 10 Commandments For A Great Sports Parent" ebook
and "Master The Pressure" a GAME-CHANGING guided visualization for teen athletes.
Видео How To Get Over Sports Fears канала Mental Toughness Trainer
Показать
Комментарии отсутствуют
Информация о видео
9 февраля 2012 г. 13:36:33
00:06:07
Другие видео канала
![Playing With Confidence How To Overcome Sports Performance Anxiety](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/W55H68A6tXY/default.jpg)
![](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/LGOGZ3ct4qQ/default.jpg)
![Overcoming fear of failure and success in sports](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/UYFdGdANr8w/default.jpg)
![The Psychology of Working with Elite Athletes | Dr. Joel Fish | TEDxGoldeyBeacomCollegeSalon](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Wy17-qnyovw/default.jpg)
![Fear of Judgement & Social Anxiety: 5 Steps That Will Set You FREE](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/8rzcvaXw_Dw/default.jpg)
![How to 'overcome' fear | Trevor Ragan | TEDxCedarRapids](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/xrWvPo-KaVs/default.jpg)
![HOW TO BUILD A BIG CHEST - THE DETAILS](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/gaX83VZugZU/default.jpg)
![How To Overcome Fear and Anxiety In Sports - Craig Sigl](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/ivyg5CdzbK8/default.jpg)
![How To Stop Worrying - 15 Ways To Deal With Anxiety](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/TNrLwxZTcOI/default.jpg)
![How to stop comparing and start competing | Brett Ledbetter | TEDxGatewayArch](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/bU09Y9sC7JY/default.jpg)
![The secret to performing under pressure | Captain Tom Chaby | TEDxYouth@IMGAcademy](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/_aqNjEzHgVg/default.jpg)
![How To Stop Being AFRAID OF THE BALL](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Is3EqpG5Db4/default.jpg)
![Sport psychology - inside the mind of champion athletes: Martin Hagger at TEDxPerth](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/yG7v4y_xwzQ/default.jpg)
![How To Get Over The Fear Of Disappointing Parents & Others](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/88yg4Fqa4OA/default.jpg)
![Want to win? Stop trying to beat other people | Kayvon Asemani | TEDxPenn](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/CAdywuyVSBk/default.jpg)
![The #1 BEST Motivational Speech EVER! - When You Want To Succeed - Motivation For Success](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/lJVY9m7qTa4/default.jpg)
![3 Things Not To Do When Going Through A Mental Block In Gymnastics - Stick It Girl](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Jc3bb6imVSc/default.jpg)
![Feel awkward making eye contact? Get rid of it once and for all](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/Z8UF8hTmeJM/default.jpg)
![How to Improve Willpower and Determination by Learning from Mentally Tough Athletes](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/7B40DCZ1x8A/default.jpg)
![A Fighter’s Guide to Performance Anxiety | Stacey Copeland | TEDxRNCM](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/bhCXqa7vCEk/default.jpg)