How To Turn Dating Into A Relationship

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How To Turn Dating Into A Relationship

If you’ve ever met a great guy and you hit it off, you probably want to know how to turn dating into a relationship with him. You might even be dating this guy for weeks or months, and you’re still wondering “What are we?”

“Where is this going?”

When a woman is in a situation where she doesn’t know if this is a relationship or a friendship, she has to know how to take a casual dating arrangement and make it a good long-term relationship. Things can be really awkward during those first few weeks of dating, and you don’t want to take a chance at scaring your partner off.

It doesn’t matter if you met him online dating, or even if you had a one night stand – you can make this thing work!

If he’s the person you really want, you simply have to have a game plan to catch him and go from dating to relationship. It’s a fact that many of these steps are what a relationship therapist would tell you about to AVOID winding up in their office later.

Let’s start with –

STEP 1: One Plus One Is THREE… Not TWO.

You may have heard a relationship expert tell you that “one plus one equals one” in a relationship. This is a big mistake – even if you’re just casual with him. This is not the way to develop intimacy with a guy.

The argument goes that if you and him are working toward marriage, you have to act as one. This is really unhealthy and a big mistake to make in any relationship.

The real equation of Love is: “One plus one is THREE.”

This means that when you add you + him, you really have each of you, plus that magical “third person” that’s created when you’re together. Your relationship is the entity that represents the best of both of you.

So you don’t want this to be something casual or “lighthearted.” You want it to be for real.

What this means for YOU is that you have to have your own fully developed life before you get together with your partner. Guys can sense when a woman is not living her life – or if she’s pretending while she waits to “land the right guy.”

If he senses that you’re doing this, he’ll keep things casual for as long as possible.

You really do need to be happy single BEFORE you get into a relationship. I see clients all the time that think that “when I’m his girlfriend” or “when we get married” that all of her problems will just magically take care of themselves.

And they never do.

PAY ATTENTION: To turn casual dating into a relationship, he has to see you as a happy, healthy woman who is ready for a loving relationship.

STEP 2: He Needs A Quest…

Guys don’t invest themselves in a relationship that doesn’t challenge him as a man.

Now, these challenges can come in many forms. And yes, it might sound a bit silly, but they’re a lot like the quests from fairy tales and old stories of chivalry. After all, these stories are legendary because they are based on the reality of how men and women connect.

The idea is that if you want him in a monogamous relationship, you have to give him something to work for.

You may have heard my story about the kid who gets a car for his 16th birthday. This young person gets a nice new car from his parents for free. And of course, he doesn’t appreciate it.

Why?

Because he has no “skin in the game.” He didn’t EARN that car.

And no one is surprised when he doesn’t take care of it, or the nice new car gets trashed in just a couple years.

But if he had to pay his parents back, you bet he’d feel like he was invested in the deal. He’d value that car. He’d take care of it!

The same is true of relationships. He needs to INVEST himself in you if you want him to be more than a casual boyfriend. If you don’t get him to work for you, you’ll never know what he’s made of.

And quite honestly, men NEED women to give us this kick-in-the-butt to get us moving toward our full potential. Otherwise we fall into the trap of laziness. This is true for almost every person out there, by the way.

You don’t want a guy that’s looking for a good time – you want a man that can handle the good AND bad times.

You want a PARTNER in life and love!

This kind of connection is created by ...

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How To Turn Dating Into A Relationship
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