How To Heal Your Hyper-vigilance!

Hyper-vigilance - the specktor of trauma in our minds

What is it?

When we're constantly anticipating the next "problem" or event

When we're waiting for the next "shoe to drop"

recurrent anxiety when things are too "calm" or stable
Why does it happen?

The chaos of recurrent trauma stuns our brain into a state of looping and bracing. So, if traumas keep happening over and over without the need for safety and rest being met, we get locked into a state of tension and bracing for the next event

Chaos of narcissistic and abusive people create this. Their instability, lack of reliability, and unpredictability train us to feel this way and respond this wway to calm. It is unsafe to feel safe and calm!
What do we do about it?

Breaking hypervigilance! When your brain signals you that "something bad is happening", take these steps:

1) Breathe and yawn three times

2) Allow your awareness to focus on a physical object in the space around you for a few seconds. Just observe it. Notice the space between you and it. Breathe into that space

3) Observe how your mind and body relax as you do this

4) Assess your Present Moment:

Is there a threat I can see?

Is there a threat I can hear?

Is there a threat I can touch?

Is there a threat I can taste?

Is there a threat I can smell?

Is there an actual, physical threat right now?

If no, then validate your present reality.

What is something safe I can see?

What is something safe I can smell?

What is something safe I can touch?

What is something safe I can taste?

What is something safe I can hear?

Am I actually safe?

If yes, breathe that in. Note that your present moment is safe and allow both the truth that you were in danger in the past to be true and that you're now safe to be true.

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