How to Stop Your Client Self-Blaming and Take the Pressure Off Their Self Esteem

This week’s video deals with helping clients who are mean... to themselves. Over-blaming the self is one common feature of depression and low self esteem so it's important we help some clients moderate this form of psychological self harm.

I don't know about you but as I get older I blame people, including myself, less. I think life teaches you to see a blend of causes in less simplistic terms: "You bad/me good!” (Or vice versa.) I'm not suggesting we should never be judgemental though; sometimes we, or others, are to blame and we can hold ourselves to account.

But even then there are causes that may not be our fault entirely. Is the grumpy insomniac morally inferior for being grouchy or is it really the effects of the chronic under-sleeping? Or other factors too? I can know I am at fault for something specific without feeling like a "terrible person." And there is a great way of learning to do that.

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Video highlights:
00:00 Introduction
00:13 Sometimes you need to use shock to make a point
03:55 3 common depressive thinking biases
07:45 Tips to help people overcome excessive blame
08:00 Tip 1. Get used to generating other reasons for stuff
12:47 Tip 2. Share the blame fairly (and don't think of it as 'blame')
14:19 Tip 3. Examine client assumptions & expectations
17:57 Tip 4. Help your client become less sure of themselves
21:24 Tip 5. Sooth the feelings so the thoughts behave

Видео How to Stop Your Client Self-Blaming and Take the Pressure Off Their Self Esteem канала Mark Tyrrell