I'm a bad ally.

A very imperfect video about how I'm getting it wrong, and maybe you are too. Meet Teddy & Mika, hear about their writing, performance and advice on how to be a better trans and queer ally.

See Since U Been Gone...
The trailer I made for the show: https://www.instagram.com/p/Bz0Ax06ARQy/
Teddy on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/badgalenby/
At any of these locations: http://po.st/WnltPk
OR at Camden People's Theatre: http://po.st/7WBh67

See Pink Lemonade...
The trailer I made for the show: https://www.instagram.com/p/BzvTHXYl2Ss/
Mika on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mikajohnson.artist/
At any of these locations: https://po.st/0jFFvP
OR at Camden People's Theatre: http://po.st/Hajc9k

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Great channels to learn about trans issues from:
Kat Blaque: https://www.youtube.com/user/TransDIYer
Riley J. Dennis: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVF8SAGEQnBA-yKM4iQNqfw
Jammidodger: https://www.youtube.com/user/MrPinocchio17
Ash Hardell: https://www.youtube.com/user/HeyThere005
ContraPoints: https://www.youtube.com/user/ContraPoints
JOIN THE GUMPTION CLUB: https://www.patreon.com/thegumptionclub

More advice from Gumptioners:

Listening and being open to learning and changing are the big ones for me. I don’t expect anyone to be perfect; I sure as hell am not. But, being open to feedback and learning from your queer friends and peers on how they need to be supported is key, especially because every queer experience is different.
And - be vocal! Fighting back against everyday homophobia, transphobia etc, using inclusive language, just telling the queer people you know that you support them and love them and are here for them - that’s amazing.
Anon
I really appreciate it when people take my lead on judging whether or not it is a good idea to come out in a situation. It’s helpful if they and pick up on the language I’m using. If I’m talking about my partner, stick with partner and don’t use her name. If I say girlfriend then I’ve decided that it’s cool to do so and am happy for you to talk about me being bi/not straight within that situation.
Amy

1) if you're quite close, don't be afraid to ask questions, I like being able to help my friends understand or just sharing more of myself with them.
2) don't assume because I'm out to you, I'm 'out out' - especially in sports teams, at work, and around family. On that note, understand that every coming out situation is different.
3) if I don't want to come out to my family, its not your place to tell me I'm overthinking it.
4) I guess this goes for straight allies and other queer people, but don't try and 'find the butch' in ur femme pals 😬
Katie

I'd say inclusive language is key! it sounds ridiculously simple but saying 'partner' instead of gf/bf, 'they' instead of she/he, 'period having humans' instead of women (in a certain context ofc), 'people with vulvas/peni' instead of women/men etc. helps loads already
Anon

That remembering someone's 'correct' name but not their pronouns isn't really on - I have so many mates who use she pronouns but the name Lowie and they always say 'its just hard' - being out as non binary for 3 and a half years and old time mates using the wrong g pronouns is hard m8
Anon

Also, with the whole rainbow capitalism thing, support queer people financially.
Support queer art and creators. Patronise queer businesses. Share their work and recommend them.
Anon

You're not an ally if theres a single identity that you don't accept or aren't willing to learn about. There's no halfway here. You either commit fully or you're not an ally. For example, TERFs (trans exclusionary radical feminists) are not allies just because they support gays and bisexuals. And you're not an ally if you erase bisexuality as a stepping stone or denial tactic on the way to being gay. Its LGBT+ for a reason. Include and love us all, or you love none of us.
Lucy, bisexual bean

When someone comes out to you don't a) laugh b) scream (yes someone laughed and screamed!!) c) stare awkwardly (I get you might not know how to respond but this is just uncomfortable) d) say "oh my god I thought you were asexual" (i'm bi...I just dislike human interaction. yay, social anxiety :-P) d) say "yeah, I suspected you weren't normal" (charming 😒) e) proceed to ask if the person has every liked any of your friendship group (why is that relevant?) f) spend 20 min asking why they didn't tell you sooner (there may be many personal reasons!)
Anon

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